Why are so many homes today ending in divorce? The answer lies in the fact, that we are failing to go by the ultimate rulebook - the Bible. Whether we like it or not, God gives us each, our separate roles in this relationship, and it is when we stray from these roles, that disaster is imminent.
KNOW YOUR ROLE - Love your role, cherish your role. Everyone wants to fit in - and this is one place we can all fit in - in the family. God ordained the man to be the head of the home, the woman to be the heart of the home, and the children to be the harvest of the home. It is only when we stay within these roles that we can truly be a happy, healthy and holy family.
The man is to be a loving, kind, and sacrificial leader, keeping his family's wants and needs above his own, at all times. No woman can resist this kind of spiritual leader, and children will adore him. But, a man that will assume this role is hard to find, and even harder to cultivate.
We are in a generation of spineless, aimless, self-gratifying men, who have not had a godly, fatherly example to follow themselves. They are afraid of responsibility, and avoid it at all costs. It is sad, but true.
Our women therefore, must assume the roles of both father and mother, making them masculine, aggressive and depressive.
This causes an imbalance in the home, and thus produces imbalanced children, which results in an imbalanced generation.
Everyone has a position to fill in life, and will never be truly happy unless they find it. God puts the man as the head of the home: " 1 Cor. 11:3. But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God."
Eph. 5:21. Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
22. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26. That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27. That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
Christ loved the church so much, that He laid down His life for it. This is the kind of love and leadership a man must have to be qualified to be the "head" of the home. Most men want more of a tyrant-like position, in which they are the "boss." But, Christ said true leaders are actually servants at heart. Yes, the man should always have the final say, but only after he takes his family's needs and opinions into consideration. They will love, honor and respect you highly for it.
Once again, this balance beam of the godly home is hard to stay on. It is much easier to go to one extreme or the other, and I have seen both throughout the years. Either you see bossy men and mousy wives, or mousy men and bossy wives. The end result almost always being the same - a failed marriage and broken home. You have those who keep their women under submission so much, that all they ever do is work, work, work - like Martha, when they really need to be more like Mary, and take a much-needed rest at the feet of Jesus.
The woman must be a balance of Mary and Martha. Jesus said that Mary had chosen the best part - at that time. There is a time to work and there is a time to rest, and study the Word of God. If we are always studying and resting, who will cook the meals and clean the house? If we are always cleaning and working, when will we rest and be fed the Word of God? Thus, the need of a balanced life in all areas of life. And this applies to both male and female, husband and wife, parents and children.
I've seen parents work so hard to provide their children with the best things in life, when what they really need is their parent's time and attention. Hours upon hours are spent for a bigger, better home, car, college, etc... and the child hardly ever gets to spend any "quality time" with his parents. They need your loving example and guidance to show them the way. They need your devoted companionship on a regular basis. The fact that you take time out of life, just to be with them, means more than providing materialistic things for them. Remember - Things will all pass away, but memories last forever!
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